PSYCHOLOGY OF SUCCESS

A GREAT PSYCHOLOGICAL TRUTH
 If you think you are beaten, you are,
 If you think you dare not, you don’t,
 If you like to win, but you think you can’t
 It is almost certain, you won’t.   
 If you think you will lose, you have lost,
 For out of the world we find,
 Success begins with a fellow’s will –
 It is all in the state of mind.
 If you think you are outclassed, you are –
 You have got to think high to rise.
 You have got to be sure of yourself before
 You can ever win a prize.
 Life’s battles don’t always go,
 To the stronger or the faster man;
 But soon or late the man who wins,
 Is the man who thinks he can.

Psychology of Success.

SUCCESS—DNA vs LEARNED BEHAVIOUR
In a more serious vein, a study conducted by scientists of the Institute for the Study of Labour and the University of Bonn, reveals that parents who revel in taking risks tend to have children who are more willing to indulge in risk-taking behaviour. And the eagerness to trust fellow human beings is also apparently inherited. This may explain why success seems to be a family affair, as every economic decision is a result of judicious risks and trust imposed on worthy individuals.

Therefore, it is a matter to be seriously considered whether by sheer hard work, talent or just the advantage of an environment that inspires achievement, being born and bred in the lap of success seems to be a sure shot manner of being successful in one’s adult years. So, does success, apparently do beget success?

Researchers point out; ‘heritability’ suggests the importance of considering genetic factors to explain why some people are successfully entrepreneurial, while others are not. The research further debunks another myth that opposites always attract. “Women who like taking risks are more likely to have husbands of the same ilk. This shapes the attitude and mindset of the offspring who, in turn, choose a partner similar to themselves. Thus, ‘success’ is inherited across several generations.”

Then, is there any reason to indulge in backbreaking hard work? There is, it seems. “Your genetic composition can give you a good start as you have an environment that exposes you to success. It surely lends you that advantage. Nevertheless, remember that just acquiring the genes cannot give you the actions of your parents.

However, if you are growing up in a family full of achievers, you certainly do not want to be qualified as the family wastrel who just lolls about and enjoys the scent of money. When you live with successful people, you also want to be successful. Yes, your genes give you an edge, an initial advantage. But after that, you have to possess the required talent.

Therefore, while the components of success are genetic, success itself could be an amalgamation of genes as well as learned behaviour. Just breathing in an environment where a ‘good morning’ is accompanied with the latest share bazaar news could be inspiration enough to try walking in daddy’s footsteps. And that could well pave the way to success.

Indian Astrology:

In respect of Indian Astrology:
It is said that there are seven planets that effect human fate. In addition to that there are RAHU and KETU.
It is all non-sense, and quite primitive. There are millions of f planets, as revealed by the modern observatories. Secondly, how Sun can be counted among the planets? How we can believe in the presumed 'Rahu' and 'Ketu' that actually do not exist? How the hell they may effect our fate? Can any body explain the process by which they practically affect the human beings? I wonder about all this primitiveness that grips even the 21st Century educated people.

PSYCHOLOGICAL PROCESS THAT CONVERTS THOUGHTS INTO SUCCESS ARE—

1.    Every voluntary movement of body is caused, controlled and directed by
     thought, through the operation of mind.

2.    The presence of any thought or idea in our consciousness tends to
     produce an associated feeling which is apt to urge upon us to transform
     that feeling into muscular action that is in perfect harmony with the
     nature of our thought.

3.    If we choose life-work to realize a definite purpose, it becomes the
     dominating thought in our consciousness, and we are constantly on the
     alert for facts, information and knowledge with which to achieve that
     purpose.

4.    Deep Seated Strong Desire determines what our definite purpose in life
     shall be, unless we permit it to be pushed aside by conflicting desires. If
     the object of desire is within reason, it is  practically sure of realization.
        In Short – The stages leading from desire to its fulfillment are –
     FIRST:  The burning desire.
     SECOND:  The crystallization of that desire into a definite purpose.
     THIRD:  The sufficient appropriate action or work to achieve that
     purpose.

ORGANIZE YOUR THOUGHTS, EMOTIONS AND ENERGIES:
     Every thing we have created on this planet was essentially first created in our minds. All that you see which is human work on this planet first found expression in the mind, then it got manifested in the outside world.

         If you organize your mind to a certain level, it in turn, organizes the whole system. Your body, your emotions, your energies, everything get organized in that direction.

         It is very important that your physical, emotional, mental and energy actions are controlled and properly directed. If it is not so, we become destructive, self-destructive.

         If life has to happen the way you think it should happen, first of all how you think and with how much focus you think, how much stability is there in your thought and how much reverberance is there in the thought process— all these will determine if your thought will become a reality or not.

         Modern science is proving that the whole of existence is just a reverberation of energy. It is a vibration. Similarly, your thought is also vibration. If you generate a powerful thought and let it out, it will always manifest itself.

         To create what you really care for, first, what you want must be manifested in your mind. Once you can maintain a steady stream of thought without changing direction, definitely this is going to happen in your life. It will definitely manifest as a reality in your life.

         You must be clear as to what is it that you really want. If you do not know what you want, the question of creating it does not arise.

         What every human wants is to live joyfully. He wants to live peacefully, in terms of its relationship he wants to be loving and affectionate. All that any human being is seeking for is pleasantness around him.

        Once your mind gets organized, the way you think is the way you feel: your emotions will get organized. Once your thoughts and emotions are organized, your energies will go the same way. Then your very body will get organized. Once all these four are organized in one direction, your ability to create and manifest what you want is phenomenal.

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

BEWARE OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS:
Each of us has been given the gift of life fuelled by the life-force or “Prana”. Like food, air or blood, our invisible energy system consisting of emotions flows through our bodies, is processed and transformed before leaving us. The manner in which it does this tells us how energetic we are. You sometimes feel low, drained; energy-less. You might feel so after a stressful period – because of trying circumstances, a spell of hectic work or sudden trauma. Why does this precious source of life-force (Prana or energy) dwindle, sometimes to desperately low levels?
Take a look at major energy-guzzlers –
I. WORRY: We worry about things that we are convinced are doomed to happen – that those who are ill will not recover– others who aren’t, will fall ill – bad times will remain bad – good ones will take a turn for the worse – children who are admitted in school or college might not do justice to the opportunity given to them, etc. In fact, as a worrier can tell you with conviction, nothing in life is certain, so there is much to worry about. Thus there is always ample fuel for worry. And this is a greedy unsatisfied fire, always ready to devour more. It is a vicious story of burnout.
What does this mean in energy terms? Consider this: Energy follows thought; so as you continue to feel that fire – as you think negative thoughts about all the things that may not turnout as well as you wish, you are actually giving energy to those very occurrences that you wish to avoid. As you continue to obsessively think about them and imagine the consequences, energy continues to flow to them. You often feel them manifesting, little realizing your role in their creation. Soon you feel drained, unhappy and low in energy.
II. RESENTMENT: If worry drains you with fear of the future, then hurt, resentment and regret keep you chained to the “past”. As you nourish memories of people who have hurt you or let you down, of the circumstances that have betrayed your expectations, or of the unfulfilled dreams, you are only draining energy to something that is in fact dead and gone. By dwelling in the past that is dead, you un-necessarily feel life to be unfair and joyless; a burden rather than a gift.
III. GUILT: We all make mistakes, feel regret or remorse over situations in our lives and commit acts of omission or commission. But, we cannot let go. We believe it would be irresponsible to forgive. So we continue to internally condemn and scold, instead of learning from the fall and getting up to move on. It is much like climbing a mountain with a heavy trunk tied on our back. How you can really look around and enjoy the view?
Physically, where we hide our feelings? According to emotional technique practitioners in Reiki, we repress them within – in various parts of our body. Anger hides in our liver, ruining our digestion and creating acidity. Hurt and resentment cause constipation. Financial insecurity might cause us discomfort in our back. Although these might seem like generalizations, they are emotional components of our Physical aches and pains.
Thus, if we are feeling worried, distressed, upset, angry, irritated, resentful or guilty, we can safely assume that energy is leaving our body, because these are emotions which make us weak and we could be pushed into being losers and unable to cope with requirements of success. Therefore, to achieve success, we must eradicate this weakness that can be done through healthy development of Emotional Intelligence (Emotional Quotient).
A few tried and tested tips leading to a bit more of Emotional Intelligence:
I. Maintain an emotional record. For a week, daily jot down your feelings at regular intervals. From this record, try to locate emotional patterns and reasons for having reacted the way you did.
II. Try to focus on the feeling and not the event. Be honest with yourself about whether you’re over-reacting. Focus on the negative feelings and try to make it better.
III. You may or may not be able to affect what happens, but you can always affect the way you frame it on your mind. This will affect how you feel about it. Think about how you think about things.
IV. Try to be a good listener even if you don’t like what you are hearing. Try stepping into someone else’s shoes, especially if you are feeling negative towards them. Think up two reasons to support their view. This makes it easier to strike a balance.
V. Anger destroys. When you lose your temper, you lose control of your actions. Learn to be in control. You must calm down by concentrating on breathing deeply and slowly. Relaxing your body has a relaxing effect on the mind. Don’t tackle the problem that made you angry until you are calm.
VI. We all have good and bad feelings. The bad ones usually overpower the good. Change this using mental imagery by allocating good feelings to positive images – making them appear big, well defined and brightly coloured; and bad feelings to negative images – making them appear tiny, blurred and grayish-black.
VII. Refine your repertoire of ‘feelings’ and ‘feeling-words’ so you can expand your consciousness about your EQ.
VIII. During decision-making, let your feelings play a role. Imagine you have already made the decision. What does it feel like? Now imagine another decision. What does that feel like?
IX. Inquire after another’s feelings before proceeding to decision making.
X. Remember that “feeling good” about something doesn’t mean that the decision is correct.
XI. Be willing to acknowledge if you are afraid, angry or confused.
These are normal fears in a normal person. Escaping from your feelings denies you significant powerful and necessary information.
DON’T WORRY: Worry is a habit that we develop ourselves due to fear and uneasiness or disturbance. Outside circumstances don’t have any connection with it. Worry does not solve any problem.
One has to change one’s life-style to get saved from worries. To get rid of worries you may take the following steps.
I. Never sit idle, as an idle brain is likely to make a mountain of a molehill.
II. Think of today only. Don’t put up today’s problems tomorrow. Live in today only by making it the most beautiful day.
III. Take it easy, when any thing goes wrong; because everything can’t pass
on as per your own liking.
IV. Cultivate the habit of remaining happy or humorous. Socialize with people. It will promote sociability and remove aloofness.
V. Do away with petty matters and unnecessary apprehensions in your mind.
VI. Do away with procrastination, otherwise accumulation of work will cause burden on your mind.
VII. Have faith in your inner spiritual strength that often stands by you at the
moment of crisis.
VIII. When you do the works that should not be done you are gripped by worry and fear.
IX. To find out the cause behind your worry, analyze your mental situation,
the changes occurring in your emotions, views and actions. It will alert you to bring necessary changes in yourself.
X. Find solution to your serious problems to remove worry.

PSYCHOLOGY OF SUCCESS.

BE THE MAKER OF YOUR OWN DESTINY THROUGH SELF-EFFORT:
Everyone has a favorite word for the inexplicable in life for that eternal arbiter of universal law. Someone would say, “I haven’t achieved every thing in life by myself; destiny has also been kind to me.” Some else may say, “Destiny is what we make of it”. So generally, destiny for them has two sides – the effort we make, and the result of that effort. The effort is of our choosing, the result may not.

However, ‘effort’ means everything that we make of ourselves, and you could make whatever you wanted of yourself – you could be brave person or a coward, wise or foolish, strong or weak. Destiny was ours to make or unmake. Thereafter came knowledge, effort and goal. Knowledge must direct our efforts to achieve our chosen goal. On certain occasions, we may be creatures of destiny; but that destiny is for us to share as we wish.

You need not petition or blame God for every small thing. If you believe in Him, don’t call his name trivially. God or destiny was someone or something to be understood, felt or realized in action, in deed and not merely by words. Believe in yourself, your family, your friends and the people or society around you. What other God do you need to believe in and what more can any God want you to do? Are they all not His creation?

Therefore, reject fate realize your destiny. One should overcome evil by good and fate by self-effort. One who says, “Fate is directing me to do this” is brainless, and the goddess of fortune abandons him. Hence, by self-effort acquire wisdom and then realize that this self-effort is not without its own end, in the direct realization of the truth.

If an astrologer predicts that a young man would become a great scholar, does that young man become a scholar without study? No. Then why do we believe in destiny? All of us have attained self-knowledge by self-effort alone. Hence, renounce fatalism and apply yourself to self-effort.

Watch your thoughts, they become your words. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become your habits. Watch your habits, they become your character it becomes your destiny.

The universe is transformation; our life is what our thoughts make it. – (Marcus Aurelius).

PSYCHOLOGY OF SUCCESS.

FAITH AND SELF-CONFIDENCE
From birth until death the mind is always reaching out for that which it does not possess. The little child playing with its toys on the floor sees another child with a different sort of toy and immediately tries to lay hand on that toy. To put it in another way, “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”, as it seems to the jackass. With such an attitude of mind, the individual begins to learn that happiness and contentment are not of this world. In desperation, he turns to religion for hope and encouragement.

However, the individual wonders which brand of religion offers the safest passageway, until hope vanishes. Always seeking, but never finding — thus might be described man’s struggle for happiness and contentment.

Life is an everlasting question mark! Our power to “Acquire” is always a decade or so behind our power to “Desire”! And if we catch up with the thing we want, we no longer want it! How beautiful the mountain yonder in the distance. But, the moment we draw near it, we find it to be nothing but a wretched collection of rocks, dirt and trees. Out of truth grew the oft-repeated adage, “Familiarity breeds contempt”.

Happiness, contentment and beauty are states of mind. They can never be enjoyed except through vision of the afar. If the hope of unfinished dreams in man’s heart is destroyed, or the moment he ceases to cherish the vision of future achievement, he is finished. Nature has built man so. Man’s greatest and only lasting happiness is that which he feels in the pursuit of some yet unattained object. Anticipation is sweeter than realization. That which is at hand does not satisfy. The only enduring satisfaction a man keeps alive in his heart is the ‘Hope of Future Achievement’. When that Hope dies write ‘FINISH’ across human heart. Thus, while struggling to achieve his object and to grow in life, he has to keep his hope alive.

GROWTH THROUGH STRUGGLE: Opportunity for growth may be found wherever one really looks for it and nowhere else! Do not worry because the grass looks greener on other side of the fence. Nature intended it so. Thus does she allure us and groom us for the life-long task of ‘Growth Through Struggle’. After removal of discontentment and confusion over your selected goal, you have to struggle for the visualization of and belief in the attainment of your desire. Thus, you must develop faith in your definite chief aim to realize your desire.


CREATION OF FAITH THROUGH AUTO-SUGGESTION: Faith is a state of mind that develops our complete trust or confidence in achieving a desired object. When faith is blended with thought, the Sub-Conscious Mind instantly picks up the vibration, translates it into its spiritual equivalent and transmits it to Infinite Intelligence, as in case of prayer.

Faith may be induced or created by affirmation or repeated instructions to the Sub-Conscious Mind through the principle of Auto-suggestion (self-suggestion). Repetition of the instructions to your sub-conscious mind is the only known method of voluntary development of the emotion of faith. All thoughts that have been emotionalized or given feeling and mixed with faith begin immediately to translate themselves into their physical equivalent or counterpart. Faith gives life, power and action to the impulse of thought. Faith is the only agency through which the cosmic force of Infinite Intelligence can be harnessed and used by man.
AUTOSUGGESTION WORKS LIKE MAGIC: Every man is what he is because of the dominating thoughts, which he permits to occupy in his mind. Thoughts which a man deliberately places in his mind and encourages with sympathy and which he mixes with any one or more of the feelings of emotions, constitute the motivating forces which direct and control his every moment, act and deed. Consequently, thoughts constitute a magnetic force, which attracts other similar or related thoughts. A thought thus “magnetized” with emotion may be compared to a seed which, when planted in fertile soil, germinates, grows and multiplies itself over and over again.

Any idea, plan or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought. Through this process, you may resolve to throw off the influences of any unfortunate environment and build your own life to order.

NO ONE IS DOOMED TO BAD LUCK: yes, no one is doomed to bad luck, provided you are living in a good system of society. There are millions of people who believe themselves “doomed” to poverty and failure, because of some strange force over which they believe, they have no control. They are creators of their own “misfortunes”, because of this negative belief, which is picked up by the Sub-Conscious Mind and translated into its physical equivalent. It is essential for achieving success to encourage the positive emotions as dominating forces of your mind and discourage and eliminate negative emotions.

YOU ARE WHAT YOU BELIEVE:
The most important quality you can ever develop is having belief in yourself. Withe the belief nursed as faith you can, without a shadow of doubt achieve success in the area of life. Virtually every person has the capacity to do wonderful things with his or her life. But the greatest single obstacle for most people is self-doubt.

The Universal Law of Belief says that whatever we believe, with feelings becomes our reality. We don’t believe what we see; instead, we see what we believe. Our beliefs become form, a screen as to how we see the world, and we never allow any information that is not consistent with our beliefs to pass through it. Even if we have beliefs that are totally inconsistent with reality, we won’t let them through because our beliefs have become true for us.

The most common and the most harmful beliefs are the ones that are self-limiting. These are beliefs about yourself. For example, believing that you can’t achieve something because you don’t have enough money or education. You might believe that you can’t achieve something because you are the wrong sex; race, age, or it is because of the economy. Most of these beliefs are not true, but nonetheless they will hold you back. The fact is you deserve every good thing that you are capable of acquiring through the use of your talents.

The only real limitation on what you can be and have is if you lack the desire. If you set a goal and want to achieve badly enough, nothing in the world can stop you from achieving it, as long as you are willing to persist long and hard enough.

To develop positive beliefs, you have to decide exactly where you want to end up in the future. Once you have clearly decided on the type of person you want to be, you will have already taken a major first step in developing new beliefs. In order to incorporate your new beliefs into your every day life, you have to discipline yourself to act exactly in every situation as if you already were that person. When you begin to act like the successful ones you want to become, you will actually adopt their values, qualities and characteristics. And they will then become a permanent part of your personality.

When you act like that, your attitude will change and become more positive. This will then build stronger and more positive beliefs. And your beliefs will then, exert a positive influence on your values.

You have no limitations on your potential except for those that you believe you have. Successful people are not extraordinary or special in any way. But all successful people do have the unwavering belief that they can accomplish any thing that they really want in life.

From this day forward, see yourself as the very best you can be, and refuse to accept any limitations on your possibilities. Once you develop that belief in yourself, and you act in accordance with your beliefs, your future will be unlimited.

FAITH GIVES COURAGE AND WORKS WONDERS UNSEEN:
Historian Will Durant has described the age we live in as the ‘AGE OF REASON’. This era has succeeded the 'AGE OF FAITH'. However, Rabinderanath Tagore has said, “Faith is the bird that sings when dawn is still dark.”

Faith is not blind. Faith is seeing with the eyes of the mind. With the eyes of faith we can perceive goodness, peace and joy all around us.

It has been said that faith sees the invisible, believes the incredible and receives the impossible. When fear knocks at the door of your heart, send faith to open it and you will be free from distress. Faith believes that God loves you.

On the pathways of life we face different types of weather including stormy and smooth, wild and mild. We come face-to-face with difficulty and danger, disease and death. We feel frightened. If only we cultivate the faith that such experiences come to us not without a purpose, we need never be afraid.


SELF-CONFIDENCE:
Taking inventory of mental assets and liabilities, you can discover that your greatest weakness may be lack of self-confidence. This handicap can be surmounted and timidity translated into courage in the following manner through the aid of Autosuggestion.

1. Have confidence in your ability to achieve the object of your definite
purpose in life through continuous, mentally persuasive persistent action
toward its attainment.

2. Clear picture of the person you intend to become should be created
in the mind. Concentrate your mind for 30 minutes daily upon thinking of
the person you intend to be.

3. Develop self-confidence through Autosuggestion, because any desire
you persistently hold in your mind will eventually seek expression
through some practical means of realizing it.

4.   Have a description of your definite "Chief Aim” in life to realize it
through the strict application of the principle of efficient satisfactory
service.
5. Develop the habit of doing that which you fear to do. As you follow this
principle you will gradually start embracing success. That will strengthen
your self-confidence.

6. No wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and
justice. Therefore, engage in no transaction, which does not benefit all
whom it affects. Attract cooperation of other people by first serving them.

7. Develop love for all humanity by eliminating hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism. It is because you know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring you success. Cause others to believe in you, because you will believe in them and yourself.

STRUGGLE BUILDS UP SELF-CONFIDENCE:
It is a well established fact that the faculties of mind like limbs of the body atrophy and wither away, if not used. Self-confidence is no exception. It develops when used, but disappears if not used.
Far from disadvantage, struggle is a decided advantage, because it develops those qualities, which would ever lie dormant without it. Because, not only does the lack of necessity for struggle lead to weakness of ambition and will-power, but what is more dangerous still, it sets up in a person’s mind a state of lethargy that leads to the loss of self-confidence. Thus, forced idleness is the worst punishment.
One of the chief disadvantages of inherited wealth is the fact that it too often leads to inaction and loss of self-confidence. Inaction leads to atrophy and this in turn leads to loss of ambition and self-confidence. Thus, without these essential qualities of ambition and self-confidence, a man will be carried through life on the wings of uncertainty, just as a dry leaf may be carried here and there on the bosom of stray winds.
While carrying out struggle, believe to earn every thing through faithful and honest service. At the same time, be patient with other people and tolerant with those who do not believe in it. Believe that success is the result of intelligent effort and does not depend on luck, sharp practices, and fellow men, double-crossing friends or your employer. You will render the best service of which you are capable, because you have pledged yourself to succeed in life and that success is always the result of conscientious and efficient effort. Fix such ideas in mind through Autosuggestion.
In this context Emerson has said, “Nothing can bring you peace but yourself”! You might well keep in mind that nothing can bring you success but yourself. Of course you will need the cooperation of others, if you aim to attain success of a far-reaching nature. But, you will never get that cooperation unless you vitalize your mind with the positive attitude of self-confidence. Self-confidence is contagious, it is impelling, it is persuasive and it attracts others.

DISASTER OF NEGATIVE THINKING: Just as electricity will turn the wheels of industry and render useful service if used constructively, or snuff out life if wrongly used, so will the law of Auto-suggestion lead you to peace and prosperity or draw down to the valley of misery, failure and death according to the degree of its understanding and application.
GENIUS LIES ASLEEP IN YOUR BRAIN: Success begins with your will – it is all in the state of mind. Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger or faster man. Sooner or later, the person who wins is that person ‘Who Thinks He Can’. Somewhere in your make up there lies sleeping, the seed of achievement, which, if aroused and put into cultivation would carry you to heights, such as you may never have hoped to attain. Abraham Lincoln was a failure at every thing he tried, until he was well passed the age of forty. He was Mr. Nobody from nowhere, until a great experience came into his life, aroused the sleeping genius in his heart and brain and gave the world one of its really great men.

A GREAT PSYCHOLOGICAL TRUTH: Skepticism – the Deadly Enemy: It is a great psychological truth that skepticism is the deadly enemy of progress and self-development.


ERADICATE CAUSES BEHIND LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE:
In any field, with the process of time the situations may change. However, the person who adapts himself to face the requirements of new situation is considered a self-confident individual. Lack of self-confidence under various situations creates the sense of insecurity. It is necessary to analyze the causes behind lack of self-confidence and remove them in the following manner.

1. Evasive attitude: Becoming capable, as per the demand of situation or circumstances is the sign of self-confidence. However, to run away from the situation or resort to procrastination is the sign of lack of self-confidence.

2. Negative attitude: To have negative feelings of weakness or incapability while dealing with a situation is indicative of inferiority complex. By removing inferiority complex and feeling self-confident to deal with a particular situation you can face the new challenges.

3. Positive comparison: If under any situation, you are always in the habit of comparing your fate with others, then it again indicates your lack of self-confidence. If at all you have to make comparison, it should be positive to excel others. Always remain in touch with those who possess a positive attitude and cheerful nature.

4. Persistent efforts: If you are not persistent in your efforts after one or two set backs, it also indicates lack of self-confidence. There are some works that require persistent and powerful efforts. Therefore, always be prepared for such efforts to achieve your object. Remember, Napoleon Bonaparte was right when he said that the word “impossible” was to be found in the dictionary of fools.

DECISION.

At times, you may find yourself to be incapable of taking decisions. Under such a situation, whether you are successful or a failure, don’t blame it on others. Because, only you are responsible in shaping your personality to achieve your desired objective. You can be capable to become an intelligent decision maker by paying attention to the following points.

1. Do think about the pros and cons of the decision to be taken by you.

2. To make it easy to arrive at the right decision, consider all possible approaches, as every problem has got three or four alternative solutions.

3. Keep an open mind while thinking about the alternative approaches.

4. Collect all possible information on the matter to be decided. Correct decisions may be arrived at on the basis of 50 to 75% information.

5. While keeping in view the real situation consult your conscience before taking a decision.

6. Think of the worst possible results of your decision and about the possible actionable ways to get positive outcome.

7. If you are unable to take decision, you can get Counselling from your sincere friend or a wise person.

8. Be ware of procrastination and take timely decision on the basis of your knowledge, and wisdom in the matter.

9. Decisions are made on basis of courage and belief. So, never allow any weakness to discourage you.

10. Strengthen your personality by eliminating your weaknesses and keep your knowledge updated.

SOUL

Something superficial is said to survive after the death of an individual and that has been termed as 'SOUL' by many of the religious preachers. Innumerable religious preachers have economically progressed by propagating this concept through which they continuosly go on exploiting the credulity of innocent people.